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Is It Compassionate to Say “No?”
Bobby Thalhimer

July 26, 2009 7:16 PM

I love Monument Avenue, but I hate driving to the corner of Thompson and Monument. With a passion! I will do anything not to stop at the light. I will cruise at 5 mph, frustrating cars behind me. Why? Because it is painful to sit and wait for the light to change with this “homeless” person standing next to me holding a sign and begging for money.

My friend Alice Tousignant of Virginia Supportive Housing is an expert on homelessness and on helping the homeless move to transitional housing. Alice is new to the blogosphere, and I am pleased to share her recent posting about her own experience with panhandlers.

How should I react at the corner of Thompson and Monument? Read on, and if you like what Alice has to say you can find more of her observations at www.virginiasupportivehousing.org/blog/.

Feeling guilty…don’t
June 24th, 2009

“You did what?” I remember my husband asking me incredulously when I told him I had given $20 to a woman asking for money outside the grocery store. “But, she really seemed genuine. I mean it was a very believable story,” I retorted defensively, all the while secretly kicking myself for being a sucker and realizing I had just been taken.

I have always considered myself a level-headed person with common sense and not a bleeding heart. So his reaction deeply bothered me. Why had I given the woman $20? Like thousands of other good-hearted Americans would — I believed her story, felt sorry for her and wanted to help.

I no longer give money to people who ask me on the street; and I don’t feel bad about it. Whether it’s triggered by substance abuse, mental illness, con artistry or honest misfortune, panhandling is not a healthy lifestyle. It doesn’t help the panhandler, sympathetic citizen or community. There also can be serious and deadly consequences of panhandling. A few years ago, one of the residents of the supportive housing apartments we operate was killed while panhandling. A motorist struck him on the median of a busy street. His needless, wasteful death could have been avoided.

So, why are people in our community still panhandling? The answer is not simple. Over the last fifteen years, our public income safety net for low-income single adults has been eroded. Many panhandlers have disabilities that prevent them from working, but they also have trouble navigating the bureaucratic maze to secure disability benefits. Others have multiple barriers to employment (limited education, lack of transportation) and have difficulty securing jobs that continue to migrate into the counties. Some have active and untreated problems with addiction. Lastly, the presence of con artists who see an easy mark in the sympathetic public cannot be discounted.

What can be done about it? Many communities have passed ordinances banning panhandlers, resulting in some arrests and upsetting civil libertarians. (Isn’t it our right as Americans to stand on a corner asking for a handout?) But that hasn’t stopped the problem.

Homeward, our regional coordinating body, whose mission is to reduce homelessness by initiating creative solutions and coordinating regional resources and services, recently got a grant for a marketing campaign to try and stop panhandling. They have launched a multi-level media campaign, trying to get citizens to stop giving to panhandlers and to invest in local non-profits like VSH who are providing solutions for people with very low incomes.

For panhandlers who are homeless, some community resources exist. Richmond has 1,000 shelter and transitional housing beds for those who are homeless; we serve meals daily; and we have a program for people with substance abuse problems, The Healing Place, that is peer driven and takes into account the fact that people relapse numerous times before they become serious about recovering. VSH also has an array of permanent supportive housing programs for individuals who’ve experienced homelessness.

Panhandling actually undermines the work that we do. So, if you do feel the need to help panhandlers, tell them where they can eat or sleep for free, get them to one of the many non-profit agencies that exist to help folks like them, or donate to a non-profit to invest in providing real solutions to these difficult community problems. We are here, not to enable people, but to empower them.

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A thoughtful discussion. Being a BHL, I find it difficult to just look the other way, yet know in my heart that there’s a very high probability that any cash I donate will go to drugs or alcohol.

Maybe one of the mentioned organizations could print a “business card” encased in plastic, with one or two addresses of the organizations which would give immediate help to panhandlers. A donation to the organization then could be “thanked” with a stack of such cards and instructions for usage. Then I could feel less guilty if I gave the panhandler a card wrapped in a dollar bill (just to get their attention).

Bill
Jul. 27, 2009 at 09:41 AM

Good words from Bobby and Alice.  I always feel mixed and a little guilty when I am confronted with this situation.  About half the time I give money and always wonder if this person knows about the services available in Richmond.  I agree with Bill’s comment above.  We should have a bunch of business cards printed up and made available at UWS, Churches, NPO’s, etc. to be given to panhandlers that tell them where to get services.  It would help all of us.

Mark Hierholzer

Mark Hierholzer
Jul. 27, 2009 at 01:29 PM

Thanks, Bobby for continuing this important discussion.  I’m glad it helped others think about their personal responses to this conflicting issue.

Alice Tousignant
Jul. 27, 2009 at 03:15 PM

Bobby,
Hi.
Re: So, if you do feel the need to help panhandlers, tell them where they can eat or sleep for free…

I find that copies of Homeward’s Street Sheet is a good/ quick communications device.
Why not share it on your blog?
http://www.homewardva.org/sites/default/files/

      Downloads: 

      Street Sheet

Peace,
John S. Philips

John S. Philips
Jul. 27, 2009 at 04:45 PM

Thank you so much for posting this relieving article. I have trouble at that corner, too.  One man even told me that I should be ashamed driving my big car (at that time, 12 year old 2 door Chevy) and ignoring the needs of others.  I was furious and started to tell him that he had no idea how much I did as a volunteer, but the light changed so I just stewed—for years!  I love the idea of cards that donors can hand out.  Maybe if they get enough of them, they’ll get the hint.

Frances Goldman
Jul. 28, 2009 at 08:42 AM

I sincerely hope you never get to that point as it does not take much to put someone down to the streets. There is no solution , only cases by cases. Every person is different.
Give if you can and if you feel foolish or stupid for doing so, you are giving for the wrong reason. Giving is not supposed to be for your needs , it is to help a human in need.
That is my two cents!

David Luebke
Aug. 3, 2009 at 05:12 PM

Don’t forget the 7-11,Hardee’s and McDonalds @ Leigh,Boulevard and West Broad. You tell ‘em no….they get VERY aggressive with you. Or they’ll wait until you drive away to give you a few choice words. Maybe the ACLU ought to hang out there for about an hour. Do they have any ruling about panhanding on private property? Once again….. Right to be heard is being confused with Freedom of Speech.

Chris
Aug. 10, 2009 at 06:15 PM

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